Tuesday, January 4, 2011

You Are Valuable: How To Get People To Like You

Making Friends: 8 Steps to making friends quickly and easily: How to make friends and be comfortable with yourselfPeople are healthiest when they love and feel they are loved by people they value.

You can help others feel good by being that valuable person.

Of course everyone is inherently valuable, but it helps if we feel valuable and radiate that out to others.

Some people increase their value in other people's eyes through expensive clothing, fame or prestige that is not attainable by the average person and not true value anyway.

People radiate true value when they love themselves and take care of themselves and their environment. One day when I was single, I gave a ride to an older gentleman who commented on the mess I had in my car. I shrugged it off, but he said to me, "You must not think very highly of yourself".  The relationship between my messy car and my self-esteem never occurred to me, but as I thought about people who seemed to have a high-self esteem they often lived in clean environments, wore clean clothes, had clean bodies, teeth and hair, and were relatively fit for their age, etc. They took care of themselves and their surroundings and this showed self-confidence and self-esteem.

I also realized that these people tended to be responsible. They did what they said they would do. They were relaxed, polite, friendly and most importantly they were fun to be around. They weren't stressed out and grumpy. This follows that they didn't take too much on. They spent time taking care of themselves, their environment, caring about others and being their best self. They usually did well at school and in their jobs because they cared about themselves. They saw themselves as valuable and so others did too. This radiates out to the world. You don't have to be rich or famous. Anyone who values themselves will be valued by others.

As we learn to love ourselves, forgive ourselves, do our best and take care of ourselves and our surroundings our value seems to magnify and you will naturally draw people to you.

Anyone can do it.

Check list

Clean your house well enough that people feel comfortable there

Clean your car - same

Clean your purse - get organized

Shower and wash your hair at least every other day

Wear at least a little makeup and brush your hair daily

Brush your teeth and floss twice a day (mouth wash is nice too)

Un-clutter your life and home so that you can do your best at what you do without stress

Take care of your clothes, organize them, don't wear baggy, wrinkled stuff

Jewelry and perfume are nice, but optional

Be on time, keep commitments

Be organized (day-planner), set priorities

Be yourself, show your true personality instead of being shy

Talk to people, ask questions, speak up

Be accepting and kind to everyone, speak well of others

Take care of what you own or donate it

Be polite

Exercise regularly and eat sensibly, while being willing to splurge with friends at times

Do your best at work, home and school

Smile and enjoy being around people

Don't beat yourself up, everyone makes mistakes, keep moving forward and do your best

Meet friends at work, clubs, groups, church, neighborhood, gatherings, and online

If you are happy with yourself others will be happy with you as well.


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